Stress is Relative

Stress is Relative

 A Memoir by Rose Marie Kern

Greetings all!

August 1st, 1983 was the day I entered the FAA Academy in Oklahoma City to embark on a totally new and exciting career path.  The parking lot full of cars with license plates from every state in the nation was adjacent to the Will Rogers airfield.  From that day on the sound of all kinds of aircraft wove accompaniment to the music of my life.

So what was it like to walk the corridors of Air Traffic Control in the years after the strike?  As a young divorced mother I needed to have a good, solid career in order to raise my daughters in a safe and comfortable environment.  I learned to stand my ground when others tried to trip me up and over time I became one of the best at my job.

Ever since I began this line of work people who meet me  say “Ohhh, that is such a stressful job!”

Is it?

Walk through my memories of the last 34 years and decide for yourself.

–Rose Marie

 Stress is Relative Wins Book Contests!

The New Mexico Press Women’s Association receives over a thousand entries in their annual Communications Contest.  Rose Marie’s memoir of an Air Traffic Controller, Stress is Relative, was awarded 2nd place in the category of Non-fiction: Biography.

Military Writers Society of America
Gives Stress is Relative big thumbs up!

The Military Writers Society of America has reviewed Rose Marie’s memoir about a single mother who enters a fascinating but completely foreign new world when she is hired by the FAA in 1983.  Rose Marie is working with MWSA on a writing conference September 13-14, 2019 in Albuquerque where she will be giving a presentation related to the conference title  “From Writer to Author”.   For information about MWSA, the conference, or to view the MWSA review – Click HERE  .


On August 2, 1981, President Ronald Reagan fired nearly 15,000 air traffic controllers. It took 10 years to find, hire and train enough people to bring the Air Traffic System back up to speed. 

It was a year after the strike when I saw on the evening newscast a story about how controllers made a whole lot more money than I did, but were saying that they needed that much because their job was so stressful.  At the time I was a single mother working two jobs to make ends meet while raising two little girls, and I thought to myself, “How much more stressful could it be than this?”

My phone call to the Federal Office of Personnel Management the next morning set me on a course I would never have thought to pursue.  It was the 1980’s and air traffic was a male dominated profession.  The challenges I faced were both personal and professional.rose-academy-bw

Stress is Relative is my memoir about entering the world of Air Traffic Control at a time when the sexual harassment laws were still fragile.  It details how a single woman with no prior aviation experience was hired and trained.  It follows me through the Air Traffic Academy and on to working in all three types of Air Traffic control facilities over a 34 year career.

Along the way you get a glimpse of how the profession, and women’s roles in the profession have evolved.  Decide for yourself whether the job is as stressful as the media proclaims it to be.

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